I might have shared how I am seeing someone to deal with my nightmares of the past, that have disturbed me, since I can remember.

What astounded me yesterday was this, I have been given the freedom to feel it all, deal with it properly and put it to bed.

This has made it so hard, but I know it is for my greater good, and in some part of me, the knowledge that once I have conquered it, it can be used by the father, for the greater good.

Why is this important to me, its simple, what the enemy used to try and destroy me, I will boldly use for my fathers manual for others.

I have lived a life where, don’t cry its a sign of weakness, don’t talk about it, just put a smile on your face and ACT everything is fine. Well that only works for so long, and you should deal with it, then and there, not allowing it to fester like a sore on your butt.

We need to move emotion to its place and leave it at the gate, so when the next thing happens, your ready and well adjusted.

I have been thinking of my mum a lot lately, and writing this I have come to an understanding as to this. She did not know how to deal with her trauma, so when it came to me, she just did what she knew worked for her.

When you realise, how people manage, what has astounded me is, I have done the right thing, without even realising it. I have put processes in place, that I wanted to use, to get out of this toxic pattern that had been established by my family. Who give days of our lives a run for its money as a story line.

Mum, god bless her, did not start on the start line, that normal people would have, she was damaged before she had any of us, one thing I remember her keeping was a note I had attached to a card. This I found after she had passed away, because she always asked herself, how did she go so wrong, having kids that were not of her liking. She said to me, I only had two kids, Larry and you, the first and the last. (Just writing this, makes me think of the alpha and omega, the beginning and the end.) She wanted a big family, full of love, instead she got as she said, “the lies, manipulation and bullshit coming out of there mouth, they are not mine” and she had disengaged from any feeling towards them and an intolerance of sorts. Because, she had been made to feel a lesser individual, because the standard of her living wasn’t up to them, what I saw was a woman who faught for everything she had, and was happy in that, something that was enough for her.

I only wish, lessons she taught me, show up as I deal with my reality of my history. In the knowledge, I will make sure, I leave nothing left unsaid, or anything not revealed as truth. Because, in a long line, it is time, time to take the power back and build a new history of change…

When I have pain, (I am allergic to anti inflammatory drugs or natural) I think of Jesus, taking all that on his body, how they violated the one, the one that gave his life for all of us.

Then, I get start to growl, I cry out to the one, I cry out and shout, I will not have this, this is not mine, he took this on his body and I will not tolerate it any longer.

Sometimes it lessons, other times, I take a pain pill, this is me being honest, but I always know this, HE HAS ME.

Its like when I was in labour with my daughter, I remembered the pain, I knew what was to come and I told myself, you did it once before, so instead of freaking out, manage it, draw on that strength every woman possesses and get it done, because the faster you accept it, the faster its done.

And I did it without gas or an epidural, because I kept thinking, I am woman hear me roar.

You see, as my mum always said, “its mind over matter, you have the power” you rule, not your body. This makes sense if I had the time, but butt is starting to twitch, so this is me for the day, love to all.

And remember this easter, celebrate him, not the chocolate.

I was just sitting here, as its a better day to be able to sit (I have arthritis in my lower back-tail bone and front pelvis) this is to explain why sitting becomes unbearable.

I lost my level of faith, yes I have to write it down to admit it, me who was so fired up about the father, had a lull in faith. Why, I got so consumed by past life, as I was allowed to feel every emotion, that was quashed, all that long ago.

You see, I was told to act that everything was fine and dandy, well, I found out that once your allowed to feel it, it hits you hard, I have had really bad anxiety, depression and panic attacks like never before. I had acted for so long, I forgot how to go through the process of NORMALCY in emotions.

So, that test came along and I felt like I was going to fall off the wagon, as one would say. I need to say this, because if anyone has been there, knows it can become all consuming.

And, then I couldn’t do anything, I had not lost the belief that the father would bring me through, but boy, was it the hardest thing to do. I know this, I am not done yet, I have to manage how to deal with the simplest of tasks, like appointments.

I have learned one thing, you never know or can explain, how it feels, or how to go from day to day. I knew many years ago about people who might just give up, because it is really hard.

But one thing that has held me is this, the time he spoke to me, when I was a child and broken. The other thing that has just come to mind is this, he will never leave you or forsake you, just HOLD ON.

If the powers that be knew, what damage domestic violence, sexual assault, living with a pedophile etc can do to your mental state, they would make changes, today, but you really haven’t got a clue, until you have lived it.

For anyone who has felt this way or is struggling, know he has you, just breath, just live in the next 10 minutes, then do the next. Cut your day into bits, laugh at your struggles, why because they belong to the enemy and he can have it all…

Coercion is the act or process of persuading someone forcefully to do something that they do not want to do. It was vital that the elections should be free of coercion or intimidation. Synonyms: force, pressure, threats, bullying More Synonyms of coercion.

I might have posted this before, but it rings true.

For those women and men or live in fear, need to know the law will stand up for them, for their life and be used to save it.

I was at the doctors yesterday and this struck me as so simple.

Men have issues going to the doctor, but will service their cars, wash them, etc.

But going to the gym and looking after your fitness is again not enough, get your butt to the doctor for a once a year service, have your blood test to check your prostrate.

Be active, in maintenance, if you have a family and care for those around you, then getting a problem, before it over takes your life is much more logical than ignoring a simple action.

Yes, I believe God heals, but I also believe a back up plan, is better because who knows when the enemy will try and take you out.

Women are assaulted in many ways, especially once you become pregnant, I personally have made sure, as I call it go in for a service check.

Because you would not expect a car to work without petrol, or oil would you, or being charged for those modern cars.

So, this little post just may save a life, for someone reading it, who has a hidden darkness not yet aware of…

Why the msg needs to be heard is this.

If I had been in a house with those who stood, protected me and believed in me, I would not have gone through what I did.

Its this simple, if your worldly dad is an abuser and has sexually transmittable diseases, one is a pedophile, another is a gas lighting narcissist, another is an avoid-er, and another is so emotionally cut off and then you grow up, hating your body, hating even considering you have a very intelligent mind, or anything good going for you, then that carries onto your children.

Why, because you do what has been learned…

YOU become part of those you have desired with all your might to separate from.

But then, the real father comes in, then he opens your eyes, helps you to ask for forgiveness and to ultimately forgive yourself.

My life could have been so different, but if all that had to take place to be here today, I praise God, for allowing me to be trained in ways, not many can…

I am sharing this, because I find it so sweet and tender.

Yesterday I got a msg, telling me they saw they guy, Nick Vujicic, with my head and what they heard from God.

Now, this is not to big wig myself, for I am not doing this for any validation, for it comes from the father.

So, I watched his video’s and as I answered the msg, confirming who they were talking about, its not what you don’t have, its what you DO have.

I not only loved whom it came from, but the msg, God trying to inspire me, with each step I take.

And, I can see myself speaking my story and making change, for all those who have suffered and felt unheard or unseen. He still sees you and that is more than anyone acknowledging you.

What…

I was flicking through the channels and some revolting comment was made “put a muzzle on your woman”.

Now, this beef head as I would call him in the moment, for some reason has been taught, that a woman is of lesser value, when without women, where would he be and where on earth did his brain get wired to think the wrong way.

So, after I huffed and puffed something struck me, some boys are led to believe there is such a thing as a bro code.

What on earth, I would call it the idiots club, I am being honest here, I had to watch the episode, why, I wanted to see what was said to rebuke him. I saw a group of men, look down, look around the room, but all trying to avoid eye contact and answering the question put to them.

Then I dug deeper, why was this hitting me in the spot of zero to wanting to get in their face, (I am being honest with how I felt).

I waited a few days, then I got it, most MALES have not been fathered, yes they may have a male in their life, but whats missing, a man’s leadership. A man, would shut it down, stand up for the comment to be quashed and settle the situation, instead of trying to hide from the hard task, or be mature.

So realising that, a male is not a man, a man is not a man because he has fathered a child or is of a certain age. He is the one, who stands when others, do not. There is a huge difference between a male and a man, or a giant matured boy.

He is the one who hears the comment and or actions and stops it in its tracks, he will not do it because of friendship or alpha males etc. He will stand for the right to dignity of everyone and lead the way.

Men need to realise, its the same with women, I will say what needs to be said, but I will not do it, because I want a certain outcome, most of the time I will wait for the (what do you think comment). There are women, who manipulate, play the game and will go along with gossip etc, because they too have not been taught, or come to the realization, you have to step up, you have to step out and make change, and not sit back and whinge or whine.

You need to realise, what your doing and make a choice, to be the exception, and not the rule.

So, as you have read this, what is your outcome, are you a follower, are you a joiner, are you a passenger, or are you capable of standing, when others will not or cannot…..

I just had a visit and we discussed someone we both know.

I read a list of description and bingo, with everyone, I got a YES.

It sometimes takes a little boost to make you feel better, to backup your reasoning as to why things happen the way they do.

That’s 3 now who have agreed with the description. Without me adding any fuel to the fire, I just ask does this describe someone and its the same person every time.

So, before I leave today, thank you father, thank you for taking the blinders off those I know, who know her too.

I pray those girls are interrupted to NOT believe a lie, and either seek me for the truth or see with their own eyes.

Now, father if you can get to my son, as my daughter figured it out. My prayers are being answered as you can only fool people some of the time, but you cannot fool all the people, all of the time.

Just got that and yeehaa

Well mainly because someone, wants to control another.

But instead of learning, it aint your will, but his will, you start playing big to get your own way and kill the innocent, to gain power.

When you cut that down, power is an illusion, for you truly never really have it.

Many people will agree, to save face, or keep peace, but secretly disagree, for not many will stand and say, ”I do not agree”.

So when this happens, a leader will throw a hissy fit and cause a war, to get their own way.

That is what I think, and when the time comes, are they in for a shocker. For judgement day, is coming for you, and where you end up, for your eternal life.

And to end with, “fair crack of the whip”, being a real man, you are in need to be MATURE ENOUGH, to understand someone others point of view and agree to disagree… not destroy because you can..