It took a long long time to understand this, when its all you are surrounded by, seeing the landscape is hard.

But, after I separated myself, I began to heal, once I began counseling, I began to see the cold hard truth.

You see, I have a half sibling, who is one, as the counselor said, a gas lighting, narcissist.

But I believe its more like a flame thrower, because it felt that way.

I went on google recently and the description, fits to a T.

Obsession with looks and appearance, constant need for attention, belittling and demanding behavior, manipulative and controlling behavior, lack of accountability, envious behavior towards siblings, sabotage and manipulation, gas lighting and emotional abuse, controlling and belittling behavior etc etc.

It goes on about their need to micromanage, turn those close to you, against you and them think your crazy, when its them all along. There is much more, but boy does it fit, so many people who have discussed this person, have nothing nice to say, but confrontation, will do nothing. I always think, if SHE only knew, her own importance is the only one that they see, for others do not give a stuff, but TOLERATE them.

And how I followed the hints, even when I didn’t know it… Separate yourself from the person, take time to heal, seek counseling, take responsibility for your part in a conflict, remain calm and unaffected, disengage from their conversation, set and enforce clear boundaries, keep what your doing to yourself.

What stuck out to me, was many qualified individuals say, why doesn’t she stop at the interpersonal boundary. As I always say, because she thinks, that doesn’t apply to her, that she can do what ever she wants.

But little by little, people are waking up, and the spot light is coming onto her, not in a nice way…

I will continue to pray, because, her end is near… and she cannot manipulate that one.